Wondering how to turn up the heat in your bedroom? Want to improve your sexual stamina or enjoy more mindful solo sex? Edging might be the answer.

What's edging?

Edging, also known as "peaking" or "surfing," is a technique that involves bringing yourself or your partner close to the brink of orgasm and then deliberately backing off. The purpose is to extend the duration of arousal, intensifying the pleasure and leading to a more satisfying climax when it finally occurs. Edging can be practiced during solo play or incorporated into partnered activities for a shared and heightened sexual experience.

What will I get out of edging?

The benefits of edging extend beyond the immediate pleasure of the moment. When you intentionally delay orgasm, it leads to a more profound and satisfying climax. The sexual tension keeps building up and eventually leads to an explosion of pleasure.

Beyond that, edging can be a solution to premature climax. Regularly practicing edging can contribute to improved sexual stamina, enabling you and your partner to sustain heightened arousal over more extended periods of time.

For couples, edging is a unique exercise in communication and connection. It teaches you so much about how to notice and respond to your partner’s cues and desires and creates a shared language of pleasure.

How can I try edging during solo sessions?

Edging is all about playing with the ebb and flow of arousal. Familiarize yourself with your body's responses, recognizing the signs that you're approaching the edge of climax, and learn how to delay that climax to amplify pleasure. Two steps forward, one step back – just like a dance. 

In simple terms, start by stimulating yourself to the edge of climax, then ease off the intensity, allowing the arousal to subside slightly.

On a scale from 0 to 10, where 0 is a state of no sexual arousal and 10 is the point of orgasm, you can aim to reach a level of arousal around 7 or 8 and then reduce stimulation to decrease arousal to a lower level, such as 5. 

Repeat this process several times before allowing yourself to finally reach orgasm. The idea is that, when you finally let yourself reach level 10, it feels even better because you waited and built up the excitement.

Experiment with different techniques, speeds, and levels of pressure to find what works best for you. 

How can I try edging during partnered play?

Edging with a partner adds an extra layer of intimacy to your sexual experiences. Always ask for consent and regularly check in with your partner to make sure they’re ready to try edging.

Experiment with edging during various activities, such as oral sex or manual stimulation, and explore your pleasure together. 

Here are some tips to get you started:

• Create a comfortable setting. Make sure you’re both in a relaxed and private environment where you can focus on each other without distractions.
• Start slowly. Begin with foreplay to gradually build arousal. It's important to start slowly and increase intensity gradually.
• Communication is key. As arousal increases, make sure to give or ask your partner for feedback. You can use the 0-10 scale, where 10 is the point of orgasm.
• Repeat the process. Increase and decrease the level of stimulation several times. Each time, get close to the peak, then reduce arousal before reaching orgasm. After repeating this several times, you can eventually allow the climax to happen, which can be more intense due to the buildup.
• Recognize signals. Be aware of each other's physical and verbal cues to understand when to slow down or pause.
• Remember aftercare. Post-experience, it's important to share how it felt, provide comfort, and discuss what worked or what could be improved.

A Final Note

Edging requires practice and patience, and what works for one person may not work for another. It’s important to be willing to invest time in understanding your body's responses to discover the joys of extended pleasure. Enjoy the ride!

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