20 Ways to Turn Yourself On


Looking to awaken your sexual energy? Want to figure out what really gets you going to better understand your desires and body? We're here to help.


Learning what turns you on is a key part of enjoying your sexuality, whether you're alone or with a partner. It can feel a bit tricky at first, especially if you're not sure where to begin, but exploring what makes you feel good is a fun and important way to get to know yourself better. We'll guide you through some easy ways to discover what sparks your sexual energy and how to enjoy those feelings.

  1. Set the scene.

Create a sensual ambiance with dim lights, soft music, and perhaps some fragrant candles to engage your senses.

  1. Relax with a warm bath.

Add some bath oils for a luxurious touch and to help your body and mind unwind.

  1. Wear something that feels good.

Whether you choose lingerie, soft fabrics, or nothing at all, dress in a way that makes you feel sexy.

  1. Read erotic literature.

Let your imagination roam free with stories that stir your fantasies and desires. Hit us up on Instagram for recommendations!

  1. Explore erotic audio.

Listen to erotic audiobooks or podcasts that appeal to your fantasies and ignite your imagination.

  1. Watch a romantic movie.

Visual stimuli can be a great way to spark your arousal.

  1. Give yourself a massage.

Use oils to gently massage your body, exploring every curve and edge with love and attention. 

  1. Fantasize.

Give yourself permission to daydream about your deepest desires and scenarios that turn you on.

  1. Use a mirror.

Watch yourself as you explore your body. Looking at yourself in a mirror has other great benefits too. More on this here.

  1. Dance.

Move your body to music in a way that feels sexy and freeing.

  1. Experiment with touch.

Discover new erogenous zones by gently touching different parts of your body.

  1. Practice breathing techniques.

Deep, slow breaths can heighten your senses and increase your arousal.

  1. Meditate on desire.

Focus your meditation on your sexual energy and desires. 

  1. Create a pleasure map.

Write down, visualize, or explore the parts of your body that bring you pleasure, apart from those traditionally associated with sexual pleasure. Here’s how you can start pleasure mapping your body.

  1. Use lubricants.

Experiment with a silky lubricant for a more sensual experience. We recommend Sayl, as it’s made from 100% natural ingredients and matches your vaginal pH balance.


  1. Curate a sensual playlist.

Music can greatly influence your mood. Compile a playlist of songs that make you feel sexy. We’ve actually created one for you! DM us on Instagram, and we’ll send you a link to the playlist!

  1. Experiment with temperature.

Play with warmth and coolness—ice cubes or warming oils and wax can offer surprising sensations.

  1. Explore pleasure products.

Introduce products into your solo play for new forms of pleasure and exploration. Try out Deem, the first intimacy product designed to help Arab women discover their sexuality and pleasure on their own terms.


  1. Try sensory deprivation.

If you’re feeling adventurous, try blindfolding yourself to heighten your other senses.

  1. Write down your fantasies.

Journaling your erotic thoughts can be a form of exploration and acknowledgement of your desires.


Always start with an open mind and a lot of curiosity. Be gentle and patient with yourself along the way. Everyone's different, and there’s no right or wrong way to do this; just focus on what feels good for you.

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