How to Pleasure a Woman: Setting the Mood

For about 30% of women, sexual desire is responsive, meaning it kicks in as a reaction to stimulation, like when someone else initiates or when the context feels just right. It’s therefore totally normal if your partner needs a little help getting in the mood. Here’s how you can set the mood and make it happen.

1. Forget what you learned on screen.

Unfortunately, if we've received any sexual education at all, it's likely been from porn or Hollywood movies, in which a woman is always in the mood, wet as rain, and ready for penetration. The first thing you'll need to do is learn that this could not be further from the truth for an overwhelming majority of women.

2. Remember the golden rule.

Women are anatomically, emotionally, and psychologically different. What works for one woman will not necessarily work for another. If you're in a new relationship, be prepared to learn that what worked for a previous partner might not work for this one.

3. Use eye contact.

Eye contact has been proven to trigger the release of oxytocin, the love hormone, and increase connection and intimacy. There's a reason most romance scenes in novels start with "He looked deep into her eyes".

4. Hit the spots.

Relish in the exploration and discovery of her pleasure points (a.k.a. erogenous zones). This can be done through practice or you could also ask her. Where do you like to be touched? Where do you like to be kissed?

5. Don’t neglect erogenous zones.

Remember those 7 non-genital erogenous zones:

• scalp
• ears
• neck
• collarbones
• armpits
• belly button
• inner thighs

6. Take your time.

This is not a race to the finish line. Slow down — so much of female arousal comes from attention to detail. Caress her, tease her, massage her. Make it a lasting and enjoyable experience for both of you.

7. Listen to her.

This means pay attention to her cues (moans, words, movements), which will let you know what feels best for her and will help guide you, but it also means respect her boundaries. If she doesn't want to have sex today, for whatever reason, don't keep insisting.

Here are some tips from the women of the Mauj team:

"Neck kisses and a make-out session will get me from 0 to 100 in seconds."

"Sometimes, I need cuddling and kissing with romantic music to get in the mood. Others, it's playing, joking, and laughing that will get me there."

"The most important factor is a relaxed, stress-free atmosphere."

"It's that unexpected stroke up my back or caressing of my inner thigh that says I want you."

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